So, September – how did I do?
I confess despite very best of intentions, September and half of October’s Happiness Project months have slid by. Trying to get hold of something so slippery as time was part of the challenge of my Happiness Project. That is still challenging. But I’ve found that the mental reminder of my overarching aim to “Embrace the Seasons” is (so far) working. I didn’t manage to achieve all my aims for September – far from it – and I can see why my Happiness Guru Gretchen Rubin uses a chart to keep tabs on herself for her habit changing resolutions. I’ve been going freestyle, and it shows.
I said in September I intended to:
Embrace the season:
– make a photo album to celebrate the summer
– back to school pictures
– plan some after school treats
Time is how you spend your love:
– three things for myself every day (bullet journal list)
– track my time
The days are long but the years are short (be a better parent):
– No snapping and no meanness
– No complaining
– Be prepared (snacks and water!)
– Read more
– Balance head vs. heart
I didn’t make my photo album yet- if I’m honest, the cost of doing a proper photobook put me off. However, photo albums are a big zone of guilt for me. I rarely print pictures and I’m really aware of the fact that all the pictures of the children are digital, and may not last in their current formats. So I’m going to add “photo album” to what I often think of as The Never Ending List, but I think I’m going to re-frame to a “Good Things to Do” list.
However, I did take back to school pictures, and I also took the littlest mini to the local pottery painting cafe and we made some souvenirs of both Autumn and forthcoming to Christmas. Squidging her little fingers in paint for fingerprints was lots of fun.
As usual, I went to the bottom of the list, behind work and my minis. So I did not do three things for myself everyday, or track my time – I kept on wanting to find a representative’ week and now I realise I should have just done it. But I was aware of my time, which is always good. I always think from my Personal Commandments that time is how I spend my love.
One of the things I always want to aim for is to be the best parent I can be. No snapping, complaining and being prepared – these are clearly aspirations that I carry with me all the time. At points with a nearly eight year old and recently three year old, it can be challenging not to lose one’s temper when refereeing over important issues such as toys, tv choices, seating positions on the sofa. I was, however, more often prepared with snacks for when we went out and about and even one day was prepared with bread for feeding ducks.
Reading more – YES! Thanks to crappy trains and other reasons I had not been reading as much, however, for me, reading is mindfulness and helps me feel balanced. So I have been working through some old fiction books, mainly. I’ve struggled with new stories despite picking up some enticing titles from the library and even the book swap shelves at my doctor’s surgery. In fact, I have abandoned books halfway through which really isn’t like me. But the joy of visiting the library with my girls is high, and I’ve got a blog post to come on an old favourite book.
The idea around balancing was to celebrate the Autumn Equinox. Hmm… I’ll admit that September didn’t find me effortlessly gliding my way through life. In fact, at one point, I hit a nadir. Head vs Heart were aligned but in agreement and I found I was struggling with my emotions. However, in the spirit of my personal commandments I decided to “Be mistress of myself” and somehow I found I was able to bring myself up again. However, I know that a spot of meditation wouldn’t go amiss. Need to dust off the headspace app again.
Next stop, October… halfway there already.